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Discover the Pros and Cons of Decaffeinated Green Tea

Before we start to discuss about decaffeinated green tea, we should know what this caffeine is all about.

Can we allow a small insect to bite us? No. We will defend by using our hand or leg. Can a plant allow any insect to bite? No. Though nature has not provided hand or leg to the plant, an inbuilt substance called alkaloid is provided to it. Caffeine is an alkaloid given to the plant camellia sinensis to protect itself from pests.

There are many herbs and flowers used as tea. But the green leaf from the plant camellia sinensis is considered as green tea and nothing else. Why this is very popular in spite of the fact that it has caffeine? This is because of the sheer quantum of antioxidant packed into this tea.

What is good about decaffeinated green tea? Obviously there is only one answer. The side effects of caffeine like rashes, stomach upset etc., can be avoided. There is nothing more than this.

But do not think that the taste is better than ordinary green tea. The smell is awful.

The bad news is more.

As I said, this is an alkaloid. It protected the plant like armors. Unless the armors are strong, the subjects cannot be saved. In the same way, the caffeine is embedded strong in the plant to safeguard the subjects. The important subjects are the catechin and epigallocatechin gallete (EGCG) amongst another 200 substances the tea has. Catechin and EGCG are bioflavonoid and fantastic antioxidants. When we kill one armor six subjects are also killed. This is the equation of removing caffeine and making decaffeinated green tea.

Now you understand that the decaffeinated form does not give you the required amount of antioxidants.

Nothing comes free. To remove the caffeine, you need some chemical substance. Obviously, chemical traces are bound to occur. Simply they will occupy the space created by caffeine. Honestly I do not believe that anyone can offer 100% caffeine trace free decaffeinated green tea unless they use high technology to split this substance through hydrolysis without adding any chemical substance or carbon-di-oxide. If someone tells you that using ethyl acetate to separate caffeine is a natural process because ethyl acetate is already found in tea, you should know that you are being fooled!

Taking normal green tea or green tea supplement having traces of caffeine is not at all harmful. In fact, the presence of caffeine is very important to keep the potency of EGCG to get the health benefit.

The best option is to avoid decaffeinated green tea and still get the benefits of EGCG. How is that possible? Yes, it is possible.

Buy Total Balance. This is a fantastic natural nutrition supplement that has 70 natural herbs and salts including catechin, EGCG from camellia sinensis. For a day if you have to take 300 mg of EGCG from green tea supplement, you need to take just 40 mg of EGCG per day along with other nutrition in Total Balance. Not only you get synergy out of multi-nutrition benefits, you will also avoid to a great extent the doubt that is cast on caffeine.

I am using the Total Balance and do not take decaffeinated green tea. My immune system is very good. I lead a healthy life. You should visit my website and learn more about interesting information on nutrition.

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Water Yam – What a Wonderful Unnoticed Food

Origin and Planting:

Water yam (D. Alata Linn) is one of the oldest food crops so far. It belongs to the family of Monocotyledonous plants. It originated in South-East Asia in Burma. From there it spreads to India, Malaysia, Indonesia and Eastern part of South-East Asia. It served as food for voyagers and was thereby spread to the parts of the tropics. Immigrants from India and Malaysia introduced it to Madagascar from where it was introduced into East Africa in the 16th Century. It was introduced to West African countries by the Portuguese and Spanish.

Today, water yam is the most widely distributed of all the yams, being grown in all parts of the tropics. It is the most extensively cultivated species of ya in the West Indies, the Pacific Islands and tropical Asia. It is known as ‘greater yam’ or ‘ten month’ yam. It can be found in some places in Nigeria. It is called (Ewura) in Yoruba land, it is the main staple food in Ijebu area – Western Nigeria.

Water yam is planted within the months of March – April which is the beginning of the rainy season ans also at the beginning of the dry season (October – November). Late planting yield poorly. It matures in 8 – 10 months and keeps better in storage than other species because they remain dormant for several months. It grows best at temperature between 25oC and 30oC. it requires soil that is well drained, of high fertility and high in organic matter; hence loamy soil is best. It grows in a shorter time than the white yam and possesses a fibrous root system. Most of the roots occur in the top-soil, 30cm, above the soil level.

The tubers vary considerably in shape and size, depending on the soil and how deep the ground is when planting. They may occur singly or in groups, straight or branched. This yam contains a higher proportion of water than either the white or yellow yam. Its loose or watery texture is readily noticeable when the tuber is cut or grated. The tuber may be purple, white, yellow, light brown or almost red in color when peeled. The leaves are distinctively different from others, being heart-shaped, long, broad and winged at the petiode. The stems usually have no spines and they climb round the stakes in a counter-clockwise direction.

Water yam can be eaten boiled, mashed, fried, or mixed with palm-oil or groundnut oil and steamed. Flour can also be made from it. Dishes such as ‘Isikolo’, ‘Ojojo’, Pounded yam, ‘Ikokore’, pottage and fritters can be made from it. It can also be cooked with beans. Dishes such as Queen Cakes, Biscuits and pastries can be prepared from water yam flour.

Nutritional value of water yam:

Moisture = 70%, Starch = 28%, Sugar = 0.5%, Fat = 0.1% – 0.3%, Crude protein = 1.1% – 2.8%, Crude fibre = 0.6 – 1.4%, Ash = 0.7% – 2.1%, Vitamin C (mg per 100g) = 5 – 8%, Vitamin B1 (mg per 100g) = 0.09%, Vitamin B2 (mg per 100g) = 0.03% and Vitamin A.

Five (5) Water Yam Dishes

1. Water yam queen cakes:

a. Ingredients:

(1.) 100gm water yam flour. (2.) 100gm wheat flour. (3.) 175gm margarine. (4.) 174gm sugar. (5.) 1 tablespoon baking powder. (6.) 2 eggs. (7.) 150ml milk.

b. Method:

(1.) Cream the margarine and sugar until soft, white and creamy. (2.) Add the beaten eggs and continue beating to get in the air. (3.) Sieve water yam and wheat flour and baking powder together. (4.) Add the flour and mix with cold milk to a dropping consistency. Add vanilla essence. (5.) Put in greased patty tins and bake in a moderate oven for 20 minutes.

2. Ojojo (Western African food):

a. Ingredients:

(1.) 100gm grated water yam. (2.) 1 small onion (finely chopped). (3.) Pepper (chopped). (4.) Salt and herbs to taste. (5.) Oil for frying.

b. Method:

(1.) Chop onion and pepper finely. (2.) Beat the grated water yam and add a little water if too thick. (3.) Add the prepared ingredients and salt. Beat together again. (4.) Fry in balls in deep fat. (5.) Drain and serve hot alone or with bread.

3. Ikokore (Nigerian food):

a. Ingredients:

(1.) 100gm water yam.

(2.) 30-50gm boned smoked fish.

(3.) 2 kitchen spoons palm oil.

(4.) Salt to taste.

(5.) Shrimps as desired.

(6) 1 tablespoon ground pepper.

(7.) 1 tablespoon onion.

(8.) 1 tablespoon tomato.

(9.) ½ teaspoon fermented melon seed.

b. Method:

(1.) Peel and grate the water yam.

(2.) Put water in the cooking pot and add prepared fish and ingredients. Allow mixture to boil for a few minutes.

(3.) Add the grated water yam to the gravy in lumps and allow to cook first before stirring.

(4.) Add the oil and salt, stirring gently with a wooden spoon.

(5.) Simmer gently.

(6.) Serve hot either on its own or with cold pap (eko) or agidi.

4. Yam chips:

a. Ingredients:

(1.) 1 small water yam. (2.) Salt to taste. (3.) Fat (oil).

b. Method:

(1.) Wash and peel yam.

(2.) Cut in half lengthwise; and slice thinly on a chopping board.

(3.) Soak in cold water.

(4.) Drain in sieve and wrap in clean cloth for about 15 – 20 minutes separating the slices to prevent them from matting.

(5.) Fry in hot fat; until evenly golden-brown.

(6.) Remove, drain and pile on a hot dish sprinkle with salt and serve.

5. Water yam pottage:

a. Ingredients:

(1.) 1 big water yam.

(2.) 2 tablespoons ground red pepper.

(3.) 3 tablespoons ground onion.

(4.) 1 tablespoon tomato puree.

(5.) Salt to taste.

(6.) 6 tablespoons palm oil or groundnut oil.

(7.) 4 tablespoons ground shrimps.

(8.) Cooked beef or 2 pieces smoked fish.

b. Method:

(1.) Peel the yam and cut into small pieces.

(2.) Rinse and put to boil.

(3.) When it is half cooked, add salt, ground ingredients, oil, meat or fish and simmer till cooked.

N.B.: If soft pottage is required, water can be added and some of the yam can be mashed; if beef or fish is not added; serve with fish or beef stew.

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The Importance of Physical Fitness

In its most general meaning, physical fitness is a general state of good physical health. Obtaining and maintaining physical fitness is a result of physical activity, proper diet and nutrition and of course proper rest for physical recovery. In its simplest terms, physical fitness is to the human body what fine-tuning is to an engine. It enables people to perform up to their potential. Regardless of age, fitness can be described as a condition that helps individuals look, feel and do their best. Thus, physical fitness trainers, describe it as the ability to perform daily tasks vigorously and alertly, with left over energy to enjoy leisure-time activities and meet emergency demands. Specifically true for senior citizens, physical fitness is the ability to endure, bear up, withstand stress and carry on in circumstances where an unfit person could not continue.

In order for one to be considered physically fit, the heart, lungs, and muscles have to perform at a certain level for the individual to continue feeling capable of performing an activity. At the same time, since what humans do with their bodies directly affects the state of mind, fitness influences to some degree qualities such as mental alertness and emotional expression.

Physical fitness is often divided into the following categories in order for people to be able examine its components or parts. Particularly, physical fitness is judged by:

1. Cardiovascular endurance: This is the ability of the body to deliver oxygen and nutrients to tissues and to remove wastes over sustained periods of time.

2. Muscular strength & endurance: Strength deals with the ability of the muscle to exert force for a brief time period, while endurance is the ability of a muscle, or group of muscles, to sustain repeated contractions or to continue to apply force against an inert object.

3. Flexibility: This denotes the ability to move joints and use muscles through their full range of motion.

4. Body composition: Considered as one of the components of fitness, composition refers to the body in terms of lean mass (muscle, bone, vital tissue, and organs) and fat mass. Actually, the optimal ratio of fat to lean mass is an indication of fitness. Performing the right set of exercises can help people get rid off body fat and increase or maintain muscle mass.

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Acai Berries and Parkinson’s Disease – Does Acai Juice Have Any Benefits?

Unfortunately, there has not been any serious study done proving that Acai berries have any direct benefits for suffers of Parkinson’s disease. There have however been enough related studies and enough people swearing to improvement, that it should be seriously looked into.

Parkinson’s is a degenerative disease affecting the dopamine production on the brain. Symptoms usually start out as shaking and slurred talking. It is a progressive disease that continues to get worse overtime.

There have been many people who swear to the effectiveness of Acai berries as part of their diet routine. And, some of the studies that have been done on vitamins, antioxidants and other nutrients do point towards it having a positive effect.

If nothing else, as you will see, Acai juice can help with some of the symptoms. While other treatments are working on the disease. And, it can make some of the recommended lifestyle changes easier on you.

While the actual cause of Parkinson’s disease is unknown, there is considerable evidence that oxidative stress contributes to or worsens the condition. With oxidative stress, free radicals are running around the body causing all types of degenerative diseases.

Antioxidants are nutrients that fight free radicals and remove them from the body. There have been studies that suggest that antioxidants are effective in improving the condition. Or, they may at least delay the necessity of taking certain drugs, for up to a couple of years.

That is why many physicians are recommending high doses of vitamin C and E to their patients. These vitamins are powerful antioxidants.

Acai juice has one of the highest concentrations of antioxidants of any natural food product. So, of course it would make a good supplement to take for this condition.

There is also a lot of evidence that omega fatty acids have a positive effect on brain function. Because Parkinson’s is a neurological disease, it stands to reason, that omega supplements would be of value.

Acai juice also happens to be very high in Omega 6 and Omega 9 fatty acids.

One of the symptoms and side effects of Parkinson’s, is constipation. So often fiber is a required part of a Parkinson’s disease suffers diet. Once again, Acai berries are an excellent source of fiber.

While studies are still in progress, evidence definitely shows that nutrition has a very large place in the treatment of Parkinson’s disease. And Acai berries happen to have very high levels of the vitamins and other nutrients which have been shown to have value.

In addition, exercise is an important component of treatment, and the energy boost that Acai berries give can help make exercise easier.

Because Acai berries, in its various forms (juice, capsules, pulp, etc) are essentially a food item, there really isn’t any harm in trying them. Many people have reported some amazing results.

Always talk to your doctor before starting any new diet routine. But, if he approves, there is nothing to be lost by adding Acai berries to your diet to help reduce the symptoms of Parkinson’s disease.

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Jelqing and Stretching – Which Works Best For Male Enhancement?

Guys have been learning that the top 2 exercise methods for how to get a bigger male enhancement size are jelqing and stretching. Confusion often arises on which one is better in order to get a bigger penis in the least amount of time possible.

Jelqing and Stretching

Let’s first generally describe what these two exercise methods are.

Jelqing is the hand exercise where you wrap one hand around the base of your member and slowly massage it forward and release at just before the base. Then you repeat with the other hand. This is continued for a number of sets and reps. You are usually in a semi-erect state and well lubricated.

Stretching on the other hand, generally consists of gently stretching out your member, holding it for a moment, releasing and then repeating for a number of reps.

Jelqing results tend to be both increased length as well as increased girth. Whereas stretching is mainly concerned with increased length.

So right off the bat, when it comes to jelqing and stretching, the jelq exercise has the upper hand as far as being able to accomplish gains in two areas: length and girth.

Furthermore, it seems stretching on it’s own can take a very long time to achieve gains. It is much more effective when you use stretching alongside of the jelq exercise.

But it really depends on your goals:

  • If you want added length, stretching only exercises may be for you.
  • If you only want girth gains (thickness) then jelqing is for you.
  • If you only want to do one exercise but want both length and girth gains, then jelqing is for you.
  • If you want maximum size in both length and girth, then you should combine jelqing and stretching together into a routine.

Most guys tend to what the best of both worlds: increased length and added girth. But there are some men who are unsure or confused on what they really want and whether they should devote their time to learning how to stretch for length or jelq for length and girth.

Here is a practical way I came up with for practicing male exercise methods for men who are unsure of their enhancement goals:

  1. Start with a routine which focuses both the jelqing exercise and supplemental stretching exercises. This will get you started and have you experiencing some size gains after several weeks.
  2. After you have gained some overall size both length wise and girth wise, then decide where you want to go from here. Everyone is different and you will have hopefully gotten a taste of results in both areas.
  3. You can either continue on with jelqs and stretches or you can specialize. That is say you want to aim for greater length, then you can focus more on stretches. Or if you want to add girth, then you can focus on specialized jelqing exercises, such as the reverse jelq.

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How to Get Rock Solid and Hard Erections Without Prescription Drugs

Living with ED is not easy for men. It can be a big blow to their confidence and self-esteem. What makes things worse is that most of such men choose to suffer in silence without getting proper treatment. Just visiting a doctor for getting treatment can be a soul crushing experience for most of such men.

Prescription drugs like Viagra, Cialis etc. can help you get rock solid erections but they should be taken with care. They should never be used without consulting a doctor. Secondly, such drugs can produce a lot of side effects and some of them could be as severe as a heart attack or stroke.

The good news is that its possible to get rock solid erections even without using drugs. Here are some highly effective ways to do so:

1. Begin Working Out

Exercise offers a lot more benefits that you can think of. It’s not just great for your overall health but for your sexual health too. Good blood flow is the most important benefit of exercise and it’s important to keep in mind that increased blood flow to the penis is what helps you achieve a rock solid, stiff and hard erection.

Secondly, exercise also helps a great deal in enhancing your male sex hormone testosterone. Lack of testosterone remains one of the underlying causes of erectile disorder in men.

Exercise helps you stay which helps improve your own body image so that you feel more confident of yourself. The more confident you, the better you are likely to perform in bed.

So, step on your gym shoes and workout for at least 4-5 days a week. A regular workout can help boost your energy levels that will come in handy while having sex.

2. Start Doing Kegels

Kegels are exercises that can help strengthen your pelvic muscles. These exercises are great for increasing your ejaculatory control. What most men do not realize is that they can be great for your erections too. This is because they can help boost blood flow to the penis.

Kegels are fairly simple to do and you can easily find out how to do them online.

3. Cut Down Stress and Get Enough Sleep

Stress is a major libido killer in men. It can lower your testosterone levels too. Thus, by reducing stress it is possible to boost your testosterone levels resulting in greater sexual potency. Yoga and meditation are some of the best and proven ways to bust stress.

Getting enough sleep is also important. Lack of sleep tends to elevate stress hormone cortisol in the bloodstream which affects testosterone production. Try to get to bed early and sleep peacefully for at least 7-8 hours each day.

4. Try Natural Male Enhancement Pills

Natural male enhancement pills are a great way to deal with ED. Such pills are becoming more and more popular because they can help you get great results without any side effects. They are a perfect blend of herbs and other natural ingredients that have been used for hundreds of years to boost sexual potency in men.

5. Try Natural Male Enhancement Patches

Just like pills, natural male enhancement patches are also made with herbal extracts and other nutrients. They are quite easy to use. All you need to do is just apply a patch every day on your thighs or lower abs and you are done for the day. The ingredients get released directly into the bloodstream through the skin pores bypassing the digestive system. What it means is that there is very little wastage of ingredients. Digestive juices tend to neutralize a major part of the ingredients (in case of pills).

What it also means is that a small dosage can help you get the desired results.

Such a patch can help you get rock solid erections and a raging libido. They can also help boost your staying power over time. The best part is that good quality patches are recommended by doctors and they do not have adverse side effects.

So, if you want to get rock solid erections, check out the Best Penis Patch that has helped thousands of men like you over the past decade.

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Baron Davis Dunk or How to Increase Vertical Jump

Did you see Baron Davis’ dunk on Andrei Kirilenko in the last playoffs? What about the dunk on Jermaine O’Neil and the one over Thielo Green at UCLA?

Everyone who has seen these dunks knows that it’s impossible to forget them. But a lot of people also wonder how a guy who weighs about 220 pounds at 6′ 3″ can jump that high. One thing is clear: you must have very strong leg muscles to get that weight in the air!

So, it’s all about weight training. If you are more heavy like Baron it’s actually about Olympic weightlifting.

The most important benefit of Olympic weightlifting is it teaches the body to fire all the muscle fibers at once.

Different studies have proved the effectiveness of Olympic weightlifting. For example a group of lifters did various Olympic lifts (High pulls, Power Clean, and Clean and Jerk), and were compared to a group using vertical jump exercises (Single and Double Leg Hurdles Hops, Alternated Single-leg Hurdle Hops, etc). After the 8 weeks of training the Olympic weightlifting group had significantly increased their 10 meter sprint speed and their standing jump over the control group using standard vertical jump exercises (Tricoli, 2005).

Similarly a 15 week study was also performed using football players and compared a powerlifting program to an Olympic weightlifting program for athletic performance. After the 15 week study was over the Olympic weightlifting group had a significant improvement in the vertical jump and 40 meter sprint over the powerlifting group (Hoffman JR, 2004).

But can not only focus on weightlifting because as a jumper you also need to be quick. So you also need to work on your quickness. How do you train that?

Five sets of wind sprints (50 meters) three times a week are a very effective exercise.

Another excellent exercise is the jump rope. Jumping rope not only gives you explosiveness and calf strength but is also a great way to build stamina, and work on your overall leg strength. Jump rope at least three times per week.

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What’s the Difference Between a Floor Buffer and a Floor Scrubber?

If you’re just getting into the field of building service maintenance or office cleaning you’re sure to face the decision of whether to use a floor buffer or a floor scrubber for your floor cleaning jobs. You may think at first “these must be the same kind of machine, right?” Well, not really.

Generally, a floor buffer is a machine that has a horizontally rotating head that sits directly on the floor. Think of a large, round scrubbing pad spinning in a circle. The spinning of the pad is powered by a small motor, usually directly over the center of the pad. Some buffers come equipped with a solution tank that can squirt cleaning solution directly into the scrubbing pad and onto your floor. This extra feature allows the user to put small quantities of cleaner on the floor as needed, without having to stop and pour it directly out of a bottle– a real time and back saver. But, there is no way for a buffer to “vacuum up” that solution once it’s on the floor.

Floor buffers are also known as rotary floor machines because the scrubbing surface is constantly rotating in a circle in one direction. Automatic floor scrubbers MAY have a rotating head, similar to buffers, but many models offer a cylindrical brush head. We’ll address that difference in a minute. Just know that you’ll run across the terms “floor buffer” and “rotary floor machine” as meaning the same thing.

Buffers are made to spin at a variety of speeds. The speed at which the pad or brush rotates directly affects the kind of floor cleaning job you want to do. Low speed buffers are designed to handle scrubbing jobs, when your floor has in-ground dirt that you need to put some muscle into scrubbing away. Low speed machines are also your machine of choice when you need to strip off the old wax coating from a hard surface, like commercially tiled floors you often find in grocery stores. Low speed buffers will rotate from about 175 rpm. Variable speed buffers will go from about 175-350 rpm.

Low speed buffers are also appropriate for scrubbing – or bonneting – carpeting, provided the machine has enough horse power (or dual capacitors) to handle that kind of high-friction rotation. Make sure to follow the manufacturer’s instructions for whether a floor buffer can be used for carpeting or not. Many manufacturers will void your warranty if you’ve used a machine on carpeting that’s not supposed to be used that way (don’t worry, they’ll be able to tell if you send your machine in for warranty work!)

High speed buffers are designed just for polishing hard floor surfaces. They rotate at very high speeds, anyway from about 1000 rpm to 3000 rpm. You CANNOT use high speed buffers for any kind of scrubbing work. With the right polishing pad and a little buffing spray you can bring a great shine to a hard floor surface. You just can’t do that with a low speed or variable speed machine.

Most floor buffers run from a direct connection to a power source, but some have internal batteries or a propane-powered engine to propel the rotating pad. The advantage of a battery or propane-engine type model is being free of power cords interfering with your scrubbing job. The advantage of the electric models is constant source of power without having to worry about draining a battery or fuel tank. Battery-powered models are often used in LEED and green building maintenance programs.

Floor scrubbers, also known as automatic floor scrubbers or auto scrubbers, are a whole different animal. They not only have a scrubbing head, but an automated system for dispensing cleaning solution and then vacuuming it up. So, in one pass over your floor, you can dispense cleaning or stripping solution, scrub it into the floor, and vacuum it all up with a squeegee attachment at the back of the machine. Auto scrubbers have a separate dispensing tank and a collection tank to keep your clean water from your dirty water.

Even though automatic scrubbers are generally more expensive machines up front, the time saved in cleaning your floors could very well off-set that initial cost. Saving operator time (and money) is the most frequent reason for purchasing these efficient machines for building maintenance programs.

In the end there are many factors to consider in deciding which kind of machine, a floor buffer or a floor scrubber, is best for your particular situation. If you have a very large facility with both wide open spaces (like the middle of a mall) and tight spaces (like in bathrooms) then maybe your best tool for the job is BOTH kinds of machines.

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How to Deal With the Silent Treatment

The Silent Treatment.

It is natural for a person existing in the world to relate to their fellow colleagues, their family, their friends.

There is no time in life when communication is totally cut off except for death. Only in death is there total silence. We wish that we could communicate with our family or friends that have passed. It is always too late. But in life, when the potential still exists, to communicate to those we love or do not love, there are many times that potential is not exercised.

Since only death creates total silence, with no chance of communication, it is this reason that my view is that the Silent Treatment is essentially a weapon.

The silent treatment is used as a weapon by the person or persons wielding it against you to essentially remove you from life. They treat you as if you are already dead. They create the illusion that in fact you no longer exist, so it is impossible to communicate with you.

My guess is that we have all been on both sides of the silent treatment.

At one time or another, we became so angry or hurt by someone else that we decided to never speak to them again. We decided that for us, they are dead, they do not exist, therefore there is no more speech. We decided that whatever they did to us or said to us was so hurtful or painful, that they deserved to be excluded from our life.

And at one time or another, the same has happened to us, where someone, a friend, neighbor or relative, became so angry or hurt from our words or behavior, that they decided to kill us off with their silence.

How do we deal with the silent treatment, from a friend, from family, from a parent or from a child?

The silent treatment is an inevitable part of life. Of course it is sad to experience the silent treatment in life. It is enough that in death there is no possibility for communication and it is absurd to implement it during our lifetime, but that is what happens. Human emotions result in this type of war. Wars are not only fought with tanks and missiles. Wars are fought by people with words and with no words.

This type of war is fought with no words.

How do we deal with this type of war.

Let’s assume that you are on the receiving end of the silent treatment. There are a few options:

1. Make no movement to contact your silencer. Accept it and move on with your own life.

2. Continually try to appease your silencer, attempt to create peace, attempt to have your silencer bring you back to life because the silencer has effectively treated you as if you are dead, so you want to live and look to the silencer to confer life upon you again.

3. Sporadically do number 2, maybe once a month, maybe once a year, still send a birthday card or good wishes for some other even that you know is taking place in your silencer’s life.

What is the best path? What is the most effective path?

If we think about it, your silencer has made their own decision, which they are free to make. Whether there was influence or not, from either you or your behavior, or from people around them, they have made a decision to cut you off.

I believe that if you have an idea of what your role was in the cutoff, I think it is reasonable to make the effort to contact your silencer, to apologize, to mend the fences.

Hopefully your silencer will then accept your apology and you can continue to be friends, family, lovers or whatever you were before the silent treatment. Clearly many couples and many relationships do follow this type of pattern, live, fight, makeup, live, fight, makeup.

And we all know that due to the fragility of the human ego and our sensitivities and our desire to be respected and have dignity, it does not take much to create a war between people. So, it seems like a natural reaction to a perceived hurt or injustice to either openly shout at the offender or to take the passive approach of silencing the offender.

In fact, I think shouting at the offender is preferable, at least there is still communication in that scenario and you have a chance to work things out.

The silent treatment simulates death where there are no chances to work anything out, it is all over.

So, if you have already taken the action to attempt to mend fences. If you have apologized, if you have taken the effort to reach out to your silencer and to make peace, but still the silencer keeps you at a distance and pretends that you do not exist.

In this case, I think that the best course of action is to move on.

I know it is easier said than done.

What if your silencer is your own parent? What if your silencer is your husband or wife? What if your silencer is your child?

To move on is a tough one in these cases.

However, the fact is that your silencer has made this decision. And you had also made a decision to do what you could to resolve the dispute.

You cannot resolve a dispute unilaterally. You need two people to fight and you need the two minds to make up as well.

How long should you keep trying to make up with a silencer? Weeks, months, years? How many years do you keep trying to win over their affection or to just their acknowledgement that you are still alive and that silence is only for death?

The answer should be clear.

Yes, make the attempt to make up. Especially if you know that your words or actions were a prime reason for your silencer’s choice of war.

Hopefully there is enough love and connection between you to heal the wound and get on with life in the world.

But after you have made the attempt, and it is still not accepted, then you have only one option.

Stop chasing after a person who is silencing you. In their world, they have cut you off. You are no longer part of it. Stop pursuing them. Leave them alone. You no longer exist for them, so stop pretending that you do. They have made the decision to pretend, so let them live in their illusion.

Start chasing your own life. Make new friends, make a new family, create a new life, as best as you can.

Stop running after people who do not acknowledge you and start to put your attention on those who do.

Of course it is natural for all of us, nobody wants enemies and nobody wants to die before their time, and the silent treatment kills people off way before their time, while they are still living and it is clearly a great source of pain.

So that is why it is so critical to start living again.

Your silencer has given you the death sentence, you are locked up in solitary confinement, you have already been executed by your silencer.

The best path is to have the courage and conviction to know that your silencer is just an imperfect human. Your silencer is wrong, the sentence is wrong, the execution is wrong and you must not continue to behave as if it is correct.

You have to dissolve the connections in your mind which force you to continue to beg and plead for your silencer’s affection or attention.

You have a choice. Do you want to accept your silencer’s version of you? That you no longer exist? Do you want to accept your silencer’s narrative?

Your other choice is the choice of truth. You know that you exist. You are alive today, so live it.

Keep living. Pay attention to people who treat you well. Pay attention to taking care of yourself. You must live in truth and the truth is that you are alive, so stop playing along with the people that treat you as if you are not.

Have a good meal, have a good workout, have as much fun today as you can, rejoice in your life now and live it.

That is how to deal with the silent treatment.

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Trans Fat and the Effect on the Human Body

Fats, calories, obesity…all these life-threatening words seem to be ruling the life of today’s youth. The recent in addition is Trans fat. For those who are not aware, it is a kind of fat which is created when the liquid oils get solidified partial hydrogenation. These fats account for at least 30,000 premature deaths in US within a single year span. The health experts also hold the belief that reducing the intake of these Trans fats would considerably lower down the annual rates of heart attacks (by 6,300).

According to recent researches, Trans fats have been declared as “the biggest food-processing disasters in US history”. You will mostly find them in processed foods like pies, doughnuts, cakes, cookies, potato chips and so on.

The dangers of Trans fats are quite few in number:

o Hardening of arteries – Trans fats accumulate in the arteries over time and eventually when they get clogged, the person suffers from a stroke or heart attack.

o Obesity – It is yet another dangerous resultant of Trans fats. If you consume more of Trans fats, you are sure to become overweight over time, and this again leads to a series of health issues.

To avoid the dangers of Trans fats you can follow some precautionary measures:

o Make use of olive oil in cooking as much as possible.

o Make use of liquid margarine instead of hard stick one.

o When you are planning to go out for meals, make sure you avoid all kinds of junk stuffs.

o Also see it to it that you do not consume food making use of partially hydrogenated oils.

A group called ‘Ban Trans Fats’ has started a national campaign in US to create social awareness. So if you intend to live a healthy life, avoid food items with any percentage of Trans fats.

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